Ask Roxy!

Hey :) What you're going through sounds absolutely normal to me to be honest. You are young and have a healthy sex drive! I think it's healthy that you don't watch porn or masturbate too much - I do know a few men your age that direct their energy to other things than porn and ejaculating and they seem pretty successful, clear minded and driven. But your body is simply also telling you, that you do need to focus a little more on its pleasure. Maybe you have increased your testosterone recently or maybe it's just time for you to go out and get some intimacy and love. Either way, this is your time to explore sex and masturbation a little, get to know your body, get to know others and become a great lover. Maybe even go on some really fun and exciting adventures along the way!

I would absolutely recommend starting a (daily) and consistent yoga practice. Find out which yoga approach is right for you, it might be ashtanga yoga or a more slow and tranquil practice like haha yoga or even meditation. You will slowly gain control over your mind and thoughts! But besides that, I'd also Strat doing things that make you confident, experienced. So that different situations and unforeseen events don't throw you out of balance! Go travelling, as much as possible. You will meet different people and cultures, gain different perspectives to life and learn so much! Do some physical that makes you strong and confident like martial arts, weight lifting or surfing. Find out what you like! And even if you dont like it at the beginning, stick to it until you are so good that you are proud of yourself.

Hey! Have you already spoken to her about this topic? It's super important that she knows that something is wrong and you discuss the options and solutions together. Maybe she doesn't know that you are secretly suffering from this - I think many couples have this problem and many men are silent about it while the women aren't even aware. Aren't even aware that their marriage might be at stake. To be honest, I don't think using a different position or sex toy will change how she feels about you or bring your passion back. There are two reasons why people loose interest in having sex with their partners and both are completely normal after some times of being together. Firstly, they might not feel sexy and confident within their body anymore. That often happens with women I would say. And if that is the case for your wife, have a look at my "How to feel more sexy and confident" Tutorial for women. I mention how dancing, exercise and even yoga can bring that feeling of feeling sexy and confident back. The other reason is that there is a disconnection between the two of you. It's normal that you dont feel so attracted to one another anymore, novelty is gone and with that passion and desire disappears. Unless there is a strong feeling of love and wanting to be close and intimate. The feeling like "that is my soulmate" - and that will then lead to the two of you wanting to be as close as possible. So to create more love and connectedness, I really recommend going to a tantra retreat, going on an adventurous holiday and even couples therapy together. Deciding once more - consciously - that you guys want to be together. Want to make it work and focus on your love for each other. Not just live operate lives next to each other. Again....you need to talk to her about this and see how she feels about it. Is she willing to out the effort in or not? Could it have to do with her own insecurities or is it rather the lack of feeling close, connected and love for each other ?